This first blog post is to give you some background on the journey I have been on to come to starting achurchforsingles.com. My prayer, hope and objective is to shine the light of Jesus on the very, dark world of dating.
During this process, I want to shine the light on a lot of subjects no one is talking about or no one wants to talk about. We live in a very, messed up world, it’s time to change it.
I started my journey in the single world 5 years ago, 3 of those years I couldn’t and wouldn’t date due to a custody battle. The last 2 years, I have been able to date and have dated some but it has been a very, shocking experience. Dating has changed so much since I was last in the dating world 20 years ago and it didn’t change for the better, not that the way we did it back then was good.
The thing about dating now that caught my attention was the phone calls and text messages from women. 20 years ago, women didn’t call a man and after going on a first date with a woman, the man didn’t call her for a couple of days. At the time it didn’t seem strange and I didn’t question where the rule came from, I just went with it.
Now, the woman I went out with called me before I got home that night, text me the next morning and generally just took over the direction and speed in which the relationship evolved.
I know, people told me to lighten up, that’s just the way it is, go with it, but that didn’t sit well with me. I wanted to know where these rules came from, why they changed and was it right.
During the 3 years, I couldn’t date, I spent my time with my head stuck in the Bible trying to learn to be the man God wanted me to be and to make sure I was doing everything I could so I never had to go through another divorce. When I stepped into the dating world I felt like I was stepping away from God and into Satan’s domain.
This left me with a choice, I could learn the rules of the dating world or stay on the side of God and shine the light of Jesus on the dark world of dating that is controlled by Satan. I chose to be a light to show the world what is going on with the dating world and be the change that is needed.
Mathew 5:14-16 “You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.”
I pray for each and every single person in the world that this website can be a light of hope for them to see who the one true God is and see the ways of the dating world for what they are.